Monster

Baa baa black sheep, have you any wool?
Yes sir, yes sir, three bags full
One for the MONSTER, one for the dame,
And one for the little boy who lives down the lane.


My little adik has been very disturbed by monster stories these past few weeks.He got scared of  them. It perplex me on how he manage to imagine monster in every little thing he does. I have screen his cartoon shows and have never use the word monster to scares him in any way yet there he is telling stories about monster to us and of course he even sing the baa baa black sheep with the monster version.My husband and i decided if this continue, then we will try the ruqyah on him. InshaAllah khair.


This saturday is a big day for me. It will be my first day job as driver for my children to school. inshaAllah after sending them to school, i have to rush to my new school. Yes i have registered myself for arabic class in Polyglot institute here in Oman. One of my wish in Hajj is to be able to communicate in arabic. Alhamdulillah for all. The school is about 40km away from my place so things gonna be tough as i will be joining the morning crowd on the road and in the afternoon too. I  pray nothing ever happen that will disturb my routine for class and dispatching my children at school and other extra task. I want all of my task here to run smoothly. Ya Rabb grant me my doa.

holidays, new job

Assalamualaikum wbt

Been very long time i didn't write. Life been upside down and busy as usual but Alhamdulillah. School mid-year holidays started last Thursday and hubby to is taking his end of year holidays about the same days as the school holidays. The house is pack with 3 men in mylife who constantly asking for food, time and attention all at the same time. This is my first time ever having them 24/7 for about 2 weeks...pheww  May Allah make it easy for me and that hopefully everybody will be happy during this holidays although no holiday plan has been made yet. Perhaps just strolling around the city area.

For the boys it will be park and beach and ???? no idea but hopefully they will be happy enough and hopefully the weather will permits too as its been very cold lately here in Muscat..temp drops to 15deg at night up till early morning but gets very nice warm and windy in the afternoon. But then maghrib is at 5.30pm so the door for outing is really short. We shall see, inshaAllah khair.

Perhaps something worth mentioning here for my own pleasure and which is good for my ego is that i manage to bake a cake which is very light and fluffy!. Although its a ready mix moist chocolate cake recipe, but i made my own changes here and there and Alhamdulillah it turn out perfect cake in term of taste but not the shape and deco. 1/4 has already been eaten by the boys and hubby, and the rest of the 3/4 is there in the fridge waiting to be decorated. InshaAllah i will do the ganache tomorrow if it still worth to be presented with ganache :) or if the ingredients for the ganache are there in the baking cabinet. Today  I was just too tired to do the ganache after the sand time at the beach with the boys.

New job?....he he he.. I will have few extra job after this holiday season. I' ll be the driver for my children to school every  morning and afternoon.A job that i have been looking forward since i was there in Malaysia. Many of my friends are also drivers to their children and sometimes I pity them when they have to rush to send and pick their children at school. Now inshaAllah its my turn, may Allah make it easy and keep all of us safe always during the journey.What i do hope to happen during this time is that i will then be able to make the boys listen to the quran recitation esp the juzu amma thus strengthening their memorization. If before, their journey back and forth in the bus is spend sleeping or playing, i d hope now it will be a more meaningful time for quran memorization and listening for all of us. I'm gonna look into this matter indeed.Pray me success.

eye closing, inshaAllah till next time

The miracle of ginger

Salam to all,

As per tittle, i would like to tell abit on the usage of ginger that i recently discovered from real experience. I have known the advantages of ginger as part of prophetic medcine and of course science too acknowledge the many advantages of ginger for health. 

Few days ago, both adik and abang out of sudden complaint about stomachache and headache followed by vomitting. The adik started to show the symptom first by suddenly vomitting all over his bed while asleep. ironically the next morning he woke up jumpy and didnt show any sign of illness.But then later at night again he vomit again and i realised that before the event  his tummy looks so bloated. I quickly reckon there is something brewing in adik's body/ stomach and part of the problem seems have to do with his milk. ( he drank his routine milk before sleep ) after that vomitting episode, i gave him another bottle of milk as he was hungry after the stomach content is emptied. But this time i add abit of fresh ginger into the milk. Earlier in the day i watch in the iqraa tv about this medcine from the quran if im not mistaken and the Dr mention something about lactose intolerant and how one who has such problem should drink ginger before and after he drank his milk . I of course cant force a 2 yr old boy to drink ginger tea and also there is no way i can stop him to have his routine milk because i suspected lactose intolerence is happening in his stomach. ( he dislikes lactose free milk including soy milk) So i made tawakkul to Allah to add a piece of ginger in his milk and Alhamdulillah he slept well all the night and throughout the day too as i keep giving him honey drink wit a bit of ginger too in the morning.

Unfortunately the next nite it was abang's turn to start vomiting and he also complaints of stomachache and headache.I gave him the honey mix with ginger drink and zam zam water. The vomitting did not stop but continue until morning after. He then have to stay at home. As he loves his cereal in the morning and was asking for it, i again add a piece of ginger into their milk and cereal and continue  the ginger tea throughout the day and Alhamdulillah no more vomitting episode occur. But abang still complaint about the stomachache and also the headache. I realised he have the stomacache because he cannot pass his gas.( ive heard before that not passing the gas can be the indicator of stomach problem) I rub aginst his stomach the 'minyak kayu putih' oil and Alhamdulillah it helps abit with the bloating of the stomach and the ache.Alhamdulillah the vomitting episode last only 1 nite and he is all good to return to school the next day.

I thought the little adik has also recovered fully but today, i gave him his milk without the ginger and he start to vomit again. After that i gave him a new bottle of milk with ginger and i do hope he will sleep throughout the night peacefully.The stomach doesn't seems to be bloating. I do hope todays episode of vomit is a stress issue as he has been cranky all day when his sleep in the bus was disturb. May Allah heals you my son and protect you always from any harm.

As  conclusion i will recommend ginger in situation of lactose intolerance (vomiting and maybe diarrhea)  if your child is really a full fat milk drinker and cant live without it :) Its a quick solution then having to buy lactose free milk which might end up not being drank by him. If the child is older abit, then ginger drink is good in this situation as it also help if he cant pass his gas and still as a precaution put the ginger in his milk always too. You'll never know and its much easier then having to deal with cleanup of the vomit. I would also recommend 'minyak kayu putih' oil handy to those who are from south east asia as its very  popular as remedy for baby tummy/gas problems.

p/s in my case m myself and i assumed my children develop the lactose intolerence phaps due to somekind of virus attacking them. I might be wrong but im positively sure they cant take any normal milk without vomitting them again. Based on my past experience with almost same incident with abang and still remembering from what the Dr explain and recommend, i concluded that they are experiencing lactose intolerant with their milk for time being. For those who actually been diagnosed with the real lactose intolerance problem, i can only say give the ginger a try and i do hope i did not contradict any physician recommendation.  

much salam

disturb

Salam to all

Its just disturbing when people say something about your children which you never thought he is. Two days ago i went to Teacher's parents conference to discuss the performance of adik and abang. I was astonish and almost cant believe my ear when most of the teacher praises Abang and telling me things that i never thought he is capable of doing. Does it mean i dont know my child?.....it's a very disturbing thought but my perspective have been changed a bit ever since....i found myself trying to know  them and looking at them in a slightly different manner.There is a proverb that i remember reading when i was in high school...what you see depends on what you looking for. I guess there is also a hadeeth about this matter something like if you care to see good you will find good and vice versa. So nowadays im trying to see my little abang only from his positive sides. When he was young he took a lot of my energy and patient away and that idea is still imprint in my mind. But i do agree he is a change boy...no longer a baby..he is 5 next year. He is more calm and indeed very thoughtful boy,  Loves to colour and does his homework diligently and did many things that is pleasing to me and husband.  It does bring some new light from the perspective im looking now and its more pleasant  i can say.   So Masha Allah and Alhamdulillah for this positive change both in me and my boy. May Allah make it last and make us among the righteous bondsmen always.

labbaikalla humma labbaik (pt 2)

lesson learnt

First and foremost i would like to extend my thanks and gratefulness to my dear husband for being patient and thoughtful to me from the very beginning of the journey till the end. I complaint a lot about the walk on how its very tiring and how i prefer to be in the bus in which at least i think i can rest and  do my zikir and reading quran there rather then having to walk and tire and hurt myself all the way. What i fail to see is that my husband who is in ihram  have to walk all the way arafat - mecca carrying the biggest beg pack which is very heavy and wearing only slippers. He hurt all his toes and some blood pouring from his nail and he never complaints. Im sorry mydear for not making things any less easier for you. My heart feel for you when i saw your toes bleeding, and i felt really sorry and i repent to Allah for my mistakes. May He forgive me and may you able to forgive me too. May Allah reward you for the extra expenses you have to pay for our wheelchair renting which is not cheap at all.  Ya Allah grant my husband the 4 X 4 car he jokingly said that he would want in exchange for the price he paid for our wheelchair :) You knows best what is in our heart Ya Rabb and You know best what is good for us. Grant us our wish and let us be among who is thankful always.

while we are in the tent in Arafat, two women seems to quarrel and one of them cried. I tried to find out what was happening but someone tell me not to bother as she said when we are here in the blessed area of Arafat, shaytan are here too to divert us from our ibadah.  Thank you to this dear sister for her nice naseehah and also im grateful that i did not speak nor understand arabic ( this is a arabic speaking travel group and im the only asian speaking only english) because of this i found that im able to do more ibadah rather then chatting as most of the ladies didn't speak english. But Ya Allah grant me the way to be able to learn to  speak Arabic, the Language of the Prophet and the Quran. I love to master the language and May Allah guide me to the way and make me master the language easily. Ameen. At the same time when the sister give me naseehah that we are here to do ibadah, i consciously agreed that im there following the Labbaik Kalla Humma Labbaik. Its not easy Ya Allah,  as test be it big or small is always there...the talbiah really reminds me of why im there...Im there supposedly only for the sincere niyah coming to you Ya Allah, the rest of the world with its trial and tribulation should come second after You Ya Allah. I should do what is only pleasing to You Ya Allah. This is the niyah that need to stay in my heart till the day i die and I ask Allah to make it easy for me.Allah humma Yassir Wala Tuassir and to not put me on trial which i can bear not.: Al Baqarah:286  I love this doa very much.

On our way to Arafat while in a bus, i was chatting with the sister seating next to me on how magnificent was the whole thing in this pilgrimage. We saw people on top of buses, it is something  i never see in my surrounding nor i ever thought of seeing as this is 21st century. But Masha Allah to all. And proclaim to mankind the Hajj (pilgrimage). They will come to you on foot and on every lean camel; they will come from every deep and distant (wide) mountain highway (to perform Hajj). (Quran: 22/27)

 And i made  a statement that im waiting eagerly for the dawn/ maghrib of that day to arrive in which InshaAllah all our sin will be wiped away. I do hope to see the dawn of the day but due to the walking and the crowd surrounding me i did not manage to see the sun setting of that day. Its sad but i do hope that Allah grant me all the doa and needs that i have supplicate and that i am like a new born baby free of all sins after the day of Arafah. How great the feeling was and i do hope i will remember this till the end of my time and to always try my best to put my level of sin to the minimum.I should always remember how Allah have always been merciful and i really experienced His mercy towards all his creations there in Arafah and also who are everywhere in this world, be it human or plant and animal. The Prophet (p.b.u.h.) said, “There is no day on which Allah frees more of His slaves from Fire than the Day of Arafat, and He verily draws near, then boasts of them before the angles, saying: ‘What do they seek?’” (Sahih Muslim) 

This is from the halaqah i heard from one of the security there in Masjid Nabawi while we are waiting for our turn to go ziarah the Prophet SAW

 

La illaha ilAllahu, waHdahu la shareeka lahu, lahul Mulku, wa lahul Hamd, wa Huwa ala kulli shaiy'in Qadeer

(There is No God But Allah Alone, who has no partner. His is the dominion and His is the raise, and He is Able to do all things)

Whoever says the above one Hundred times has the reward of freeing ten slaves, a hundred good deeds are recorded for him and a hundred bad deeds are wiped away and he has gained refuge from the devil that day until evening and none shall come with anything better except someone who has done more.

[Al-Bukhari, Muslim]

 i love this zikir as its indeed manage to bring some kind of peace in me as i believe without the devil our life is so much calmer. InshaAllah i will always practice it till the end of my life.

labbaikalla humma labbaik (pt 1)

Masha Allah i managed to perform my Hajj on the yaer of 1432Hijra which is 2011. Its a blessing indeed and MashaAllah and Alhamdulillah as Allah did grant me the opportunity to do the Hajj this year.Looking back when i  first register myself for the Hajj queue in Malaysia with the Hajj Fund (Tabung Haji) 2011 seems so far away. i basically have to wait about 7 years and i remember laughing at the officer saying that this is ridiculous. But how time flies and when i tot that i will miss this 2011 Hajj as i'm away from the country, Allah with his Grace and Mercy and Knowledge open up another way for me through the sponsored of my dear husband. Alhamdulillah and thank you very much to my dear husband for this gift. Fabi ayyi ala i rabbikuma tukazziban. If before when i register on the Hajj queue, i was single and the matter of mahram was a concern, but Alhamdulilllah with Allah grace and mercy i  have all these matter sort out, going to Hajj before the age of 40 and with my husband as my mahram. Really i cant count the blessing Allah has bestow me and my family.

i wanted to write about my hajj 2011 experience a memory that i should not forget, but at the same time i wanted the experience to be in both the spiritual and the physical matter.And of course only to write the good memories, inshaAllah,

Me and husband have plan to basically walk for our Hajj starting after the Arafat day..meaning walking from Arafat---> Muzdalifah--->Mina----> Mecca. I did not bother to write the distance as per the sign board because i'm just too tired. But this is what i found in the internet..

1. Distance between Haram & Mina is roughly 8 KM (5 Miles)
2. Distance between Mina & Arafat is roughly 14 KM (9 Miles)
3. Distance between Arafat & Muzdalifa is roughly 9 KM (4 1/2 Miles)

My husband based on his own personal reason and experience choose to walk rather then taking the bus.I personally do not agree with this arrangement as i believe this Hajj ritual is and ibadah in which  need to be observe carefully. Unlike him, this is my first ever hajj experience and i prefer to do the manasik carefully and perfectly and at my own speed and time as i believe we have ample time to do so and not forgetting to reflect on each step of the ibadah.....not on a basis of finishing and ending the manasik as soon as possible:) anway the captain say otherwise so i'm oblige to follow.And i do remember having my own personal reason in wanting the manasik to be done as soon as possible too but Allah knows best what is good for me. So Alhamdulillah for all cases.

our first walking journey is from Arafat to Muzdalifah which is roughly 9KM. we embark on the journey at roughly 4pm after Asar hoping to reach the border of Arafat before Maghrib, and Alhamdulillah we manage. maybe 20min before maghrib we have basically standing perhaps 200-300m from the signboard of Arafat starts here. we are infront of the journalist tower and waited about 2 hr before basically manage to make our move to the signboard/ border of Arafat due to the crowd. The walk gets better after that as less crowdy. Due to the negative thoughts from the very beginning of the plan, i found myself gets soo tired and the shoes basically hurt me so much. i cant walk anymore when we reach the border of muzdalifah at around 9.30pm.Husband being very toughtful and agreed to set the tent there although his first plan was to set tent at the border of muzdalifa- mina. We did the prayer and i instantly get myself comfortable in the tent and fell asleep. Husband pick up the pebbles for us as we are just too tired for that. 

at around 1.30am we woke up after about 3 hr sleep to continue the walk. I have cramp on my right leg and it hurt so much when i move. Anway i tried my best to continue the walk and manage to walk about few hundred meters before i finally give up and husband again being thoughtful rent a wheelchair for me. It was a great relief and help a lot in 'curing' the cramp and i have few extra minutes sleep on the wheelchair :). i was wheeledchair basically from the middle of muzdalifah to place of Jamrat aqaba in Mina. I did my jamrat on a wheelchair and it wasnt crowded at all. Alhamdulillah for all.we arrive at the jamrat at about 4am. We did our tahalul as husband brought his own electric shaver and razor and im the barber of the day. So alhamdulillah for all. He is all bald by then. 

we then continue our walk from mina to mecca about another 8Km.By this time my leg feels so much better and i can walk with less pain. We arrived Haram at around 5am which is subuh prayer time.I had to do my ghusul at the toilet in haram as i have dark spot on my pants.This is one of the reason i wanted to finish up my tawaf ifadah as soon as possible as my menstrual cycle falls on these days. We enter haram for tawaf Ifadah at 6am basically and finish at around 7.40. We first had our tawaf on the ground floor and manage 3 circumbulate but due to the crowd for eid prayer it is just impossible and my stepdaughter start to feel nausea. we decided to put her on a wheelchair to finish her tawaf and saie and due to taht we are oblige to go to the 3rd floor. it was less crowdy there and we manage to circumbulate the rest of the 4th, 5th, 6th and 7th on the 3rd floor. I feel Allah's mercy and help on me all the way of  my tawaf as i feel my leg is numb, i cant feel anything  but manage to continue to walk circumbulating the kaaba. When we finish and did our 2 nafl prayer i cant barely bent  my knee for rukuq and to do my sujud. i basically throw myself on the floor to manage to sujud as both getting up and sujud is impossible.But Allah is all Mercyful i manage to finish up my 2 rakat prayer and proceed for saie. We did our saie on the 3rd floor as well, and here i hang on to my dear husband all the way from safa and marwa and back and Alhamdulillah it is with Allah mercy that i manage. I recited Ya Hayyu Ya Qayyum Birahmatika Astageeth all the way of my tawaf and saie as my feet is numb and my brain too is exhausted for other zikir and doa.

We finish our manasik at around 9am...went out from haram and had our breakfast at the turkish restaurant near the Haram and get ourself a taxi to go back to our hotel. i fell asleep in the taxi as  it was traficc jam all the way.We arrive the hotel at about 12pm but i cant seems to get myself to sleep, instead i did my laundry :) At this time i heard that the bus that bring the rest of the group is still stuck at muzdalifah. la Hawla wala Quwwata Illa billa. 

Faraid

From blog of  http://arnorsaadah.blogspot.com  

It is known that Faraid is Islamic way of distributing ones wealth. I have always wanted to know more about this matter as it is really recommended. There is even a hadeeth about this matter. Anway from my casual reading on this topic didn’t grant me any understanding of the concept or formula used. This blog shows and explain the method of Faraid in a simple manner that I think I’ve got the grab of it. Alhamdulillah. So im writing it so that I will not forget and just incase I need it, ill know where to dig more.

The dalil on the matter is to be found in surah An’nisa 11-12 and 176

“Allah menetapkan waris-waris yang berhak mendapat pusaka dan bagaimana seseorang boleh mewarisi. Ayat tersebut juga menjelaskan bahagian atau pecahan yang diwarisi oleh setiap waris yang berhak. Secara ringkasnya, waris utama yang berhak ialah ibu, bapa, suami, isteri, anak lelaki dan anak perempuan. Kaum kerabat yang lain seperti datuk, nenek, bapa saudara, ibu saudara, saudara kandung lelaki dan perempuan boleh mewarisi dengan syarat-syarat tertentu. Terdapat dua kategori waris iaitu Waris Fardhu dan Waris 'Asabah.

Waris Fardhu ialah waris yang disebutkan berhak mewarisi secara terus dan bahagiannya telah ditetapkan seperti isteri mendapat 1/8 bahagian sekiranya mempunyai anak. Waris 'Asabah pula ialah waris yang berhak mewarisi dan bahagiannya merupakan baki daripada harta pusaka setelah menetapkan bahagian Waris Fardhu. Sebagai contoh: Anak lelaki mendapat baki harta setelah menetapkan bahagian suami si mati (1/4) dan ibu (1/6), maka anak lelaki mendapat baki harta pusaka (7/12).”

In my own word, from my understanding, the one who is most eligble are the parents, spouse and children of the deceased. The rest of the relatives i.e grandparents, uncle, aunty and sibling of the deceased are also eligible to receive the wealth in certain cases. ( i wonder what cases)

2 types of waris..Fardh and Asabah

Fard is the one who receive his/her part from the whole sum of the wealth i.e wife  with children is allocated 1/8 from the sum of the wealth.( this is based from the allocation mention in quran)

Asabah are the one who will receive his/her part based on the deducted amount of wealth already allocated for the Fardh waris.i.e if the deceased is a female mother leaving a husband,a child and a mother. So the husband will get ¼ and her mother will get 1/6 from her whole sum of wealth and her son will get 7/12 from the balance. The formula is

1 – (1/4 + 1/6) = 7/12

Of course this website did not explain in detail of the overall faraid system..but I guess if this is the introduction. then I’m beginning to understand where and how to go from here. More reading needed  inshaAllah.

Rabbi Zidni Ilma warzukni Fahman.

On the matter of waris this website helps :http://maths.usm.my/faraid/msl/default.html

Terdapat 15 ahli waris dari pihak lelaki dan 10 ahli waris dari dari pihak perempuan yang utama dan layak menerima harta pusaka.Waris dari pihak lelaki seperti berikut:  1.  Anak lelaki  2.  Cucu lelaki dari anak lelaki  3.  Bapa  4.  Datuk  5.  Saudara lelaki seibu sebapa  6.  Saudara lelaki sebapa  7.  Saudara lelaki seibu  8.  Anak saudara lelaki dari seibu sebapa  9.  Anak saudara lelaki dari seibu atau sebapa 10. Bapa saudara seibu sebapa 11. Bapa saudara sebapa 12. Sepupu dari bapa saudara seibu sebapa 13. Sepupu dari bapa saudara sebapa 14. Suami 15. Hamba sahaya Jika kesemua waris lelaki di atas wujud, maka hanya tiga orang sahaja yang layak iaitu: 1.  Bapa 2.  Anak lelaki 3.  Suami Ahli-ahli waris perempuan yang layak menerima harta pusaka iaitu:  1.  Anak perempuan  2.  Cucu perempuan dari anak lelaki  3.  Ibu  4.  Nenek sebelah ibu  5.  Nenek sebelah bapa  6.  Saudara perempuan seibu sebapa  7.  Saudara perempuan seibu  8.  Saudara perempuan sebapa  9.  Isteri 10. Petuan perempuan bagi hamba sahaya Jika kesemua ahli waris diatas wujud, hanya 5 orang yang layak: 1.  Anak perempuan 2.  Cucu perempuan dari anak lelaki 3.  Ibu 4.  Saudara perempuan seibu sebapa 5.  Isteri Jika kesemua 25 waris lelaki dan perempuan masih hidup, maka keutamaan akan diberikan kepada hanya lima ahli waris berikut:  (Generally these are the main waris in ordinary family) 1. Bapa - father 2. Ibu - mother 3. Anak Lelaki - son 4. Anak Perempuan - daughter 5. Suami/Isteri - spouse